author, creative writing, writing

Want to be a Writer? Embrace It!

Morning all, I hope you’ve had a week of smiles and stories.

This week’s blog post is focusing on something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, and something I think other aspiring authors and unpublished writers should think about too.

I’ve always worked full time, I’ve been in marketing for 10 years.  And I’ve spent many years trying to work out what I wanted to do as my career instead. I knew I always wanted to be a careers person, that this was my biggest drive and goal. But I’ve never been able to settle on what exactly I would do. I have a big imagination and huge interest in so many things, and so I would pursue a career only to change my mind very shortly after. I’ve attempted to chase dreams of becoming everything from an archaeologist to a train driver (no joke!). Yet, I’ve never settled on any one thing.

The one constant, the only constant, in my life was writing. I always knew I wanted to be a writer, but I kept it quiet. I knew to be realistic and to focus on another career option for if writing doesn’t work out, and so I continued to write on the side and look for bigger things. But this has changed…

The turning point; “you want to be a writer. Be a writer.”
What a simple moment it was. I lay in bed, beside my fiance, and spoke him through my struggle to focus on a new career, outside of marketing. And he told me, as though it was the simplest thing ever; “you want to be a writer. Be a writer.” And…somehow…it worked. I embraced that I wanted to be a writer. And here’s what happened:

1. I wrote more
I had been quite good at sticking to my writing, but this was like a light switch flicking on in my mind. I started to write every single day, with no exceptions. I focused on my novel, on finishing my drafts and on editing. I feel like I’ve not stopped since and it’s the best feeling.
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2. I became more confident
Once I allowed myself to embrace that I wanted to be a writer, I became more confident. When people ask what I do for a living I say, “I work in Marketing, but I want to be a writer.” I speak with confidence about the fact I write novels and that one day I’d like to try and become a published author. And speaking this out loud gives me even more drive to make those dreams come true.
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3. I am happier
I no longer feel as though I’m trying to chase dreams I’ve not yet realised. I am happy in my marketing job and no longer disheartened that it may not be the career I want for life. I am happy focusing on my writing, on my goals and finding ways to become a better writer and pursue my dream. I feel like I’ve finally accepted myself for who I am; a storyteller!
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4. I am still realistic
It’s easy to get carried away, but it’s important to stay grounded. Realistically, I know how difficult the writing industry is to break into and I know that writers do not typically make fortunes from writing. I am not writing for money, so I am realistic enough to know I will need to keep working, and keep earning money along the way. But being realistic doesn’t mean you can’t be optimistic too. Embrace your dreams, stay grounded, and pursue them with everything you’ve got.
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Have you embraced your desire to be a writer?
Or are you still struggling to admit it so ferociously?
It’s a big step, or at least it was for me, and I’d love to hear your thoughts. Leave a comment or contact me any time.

Until then,
Keep writing,
M
x

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32 thoughts on “Want to be a Writer? Embrace It!”

  1. Yes indeed. I started late; it’s a cliche, but once you’re no longer working round everyone else in the family you can focus. I have been writing frantically for eleven years, never going to earn much, but at least I have plenty on line and in paper to show for it. My 92 year old mother last year actually got to hold several of my paperbacks in her hands. But the main point is to get the word printed, published, even if it’s a booklet printed by your local printer, stories typed out for your grandchildren. So many of my friends have written great stuff, we enjoy hearing it read at writers’ group, but the novels remain unfinished, the stories unprinted.

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  2. Love this post because it’s so true. I’ve always wanted to be a writer but it was always just ‘something’ I would do ‘one day’. Then, like you, I decided to go for it. Embracing it really is the key. Another great post, M 😊.

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    1. Thank you 🙂 glad we’ve both embraced it and hope many more do too. I think we sometimes see it as an impossible dream, so we’re anxious to pursue it, but it is possible ✨ we got this!

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  3. Agree with the article and many of the comments. A writer is someone who writes – probably often, probably with the intention to publish, but not necessarily. It certainly doesn’t have to be their main ‘job’ – as has been pointed out, a small fraction of writers can make a living through writing alone. Self-publishing is unlikely to be the route to anything different – I’ve seen a stat that 77% plus of self-published writers make $1,000 or less a year. Yes, being realistic is essential. You need a different motivation, the pleasure in writing.

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  4. First of all, I want to say hi as I’m a new follower! 🙂 Second of all, this post is awesome. It hit really close to home for me. As I’m about to graduate college next summer, I’m struggling with the fact that I want to write novels, but may not have something to query next year. Which means I’ll have to get a real adult job. (ugh) I think all I can do is find a job I’m happy in and realize that writing is my dream. Even then, it’s still hard to embrace the idea that whatever job I get out of college won’t be my career, but I’m a storyteller. This post was super inspiring, and I’m glad that you’re writing more and happy with the direction of your life.

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    1. Hi Madeline! Thank you for dropping by and following. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I think you have the right idea; find a job that you can enjoy, being happy day to day is important. Then in the mean time you can pursue your writing and see where it takes you 🙂 x

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  5. A reflection of my youth in your words. Lets see…..where do I start?

    I have a culinary arts degree. Yes. I can claim I am a chef though rumor has it I can actually burn water. On the other hand I make a mean fried chicken.

    I have a journalism degree but the only paper I worked for was in a tiny town covering Mrs. Jones new garden and Ed’s baby sheep.

    I’m seeing a pattern with writers. We are restless. We continue to search for something that we believe is our calling while ignoring the whispers right under our noses.

    Your fiance nailed it and sometimes that’s all we need to hear. A long time ago I realized that all the other things I do is just stuff. The real me is pen, paper and the characters I create.

    Thank you for your thoughts. I feel less alone.

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    1. Thanks so much Bryan, this is such a lovely comment. You’re so right about writers being restless, and I am touched that sharing my feelings has helped you feel less alone. It’s a comfort for me too, to know I’m not the only one. ❤ Thanks so much x

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  6. I definitely know what it’s like to bounce around between dreams. For one thing, I have a father who has experienced this, and it’s rubbed off on me. I had dreams of becoming a vet once because I love animals, a missionary/apologist because I love Jesus and want to share that love with others, an artist because I enjoy drawing and am a creative person, and finally a music teacher because I took piano lessons and figured it was all about reaching out to the right people and getting an adequate number of students. But then, like you, one day, it just hit me. Through it all, I have loved to write, and have even had teachers praising my work. And something else struck me, too: I had been dancing around the real solution the whole time! I can be creative, share the love of Christ, and be productive doing what I love as a writer! I have since graduated with a Bachelors Degree in English with an emphasis in Creative Writing, and now I am pursuing this dream fully, working on the draft of my debut novel as we speak. I have to say, I’ve never felt more fulfilled as far as my personal career path goes as I am now. Thank you, Lord, for this revelation! God bless each and every one of you, and I pray the same will happen in your lives as it has happened in mine.

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    1. This is such a lovely comment, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us all ❤ You're so right then in writing you can bring all your passions together and that's so important. I'm so pleased for you, and hope that everyone learns to embrace their passions fearlessly…or as fearlessly as possible! ❤

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  7. There was a point in my life where I actually thought I had to “solve the day job issue first”, before I could write. I wanted to know enough to be stable and safe in my profession, and then I would turn my energy to writing, and one day I had a similar moment of clarity, where I realized that writing is not an expensive profession to practice, it doesn’t require special tools or surroundings (though a quiet room will often work better than a busy/noisy one), and I asked myself “What am I waiting for?”
    I think there’s a longstanding tradition of writers “inventing” barriers, gatekeepers that have to be overcome before we may enter, and truly become writers, and then one day you realize, the only one guarding the border is a character of your own creation, a story you’ve created to explain why you can’t, because you find it hard to believe that it’s really that simple. As Neil Gaiman said, all one has to do is write.

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    1. Another wonderful comment, Adam! I love the insight you bring to my posts 🙂 I’m so amazed so many of us have had the same doubts and reluctance and glad we’ve all realised this is our thing! Writers write 😀

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  8. I have always wanted to write a book. I had been let down by so many friends and family that belittled the dream of it ever happening. Since I started blogging my wife has taken my plan to be an author more seriously so that is a good thing. Hopefully, there will be a day when we are all published and able to get together in a room and share our tales.

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    1. I’m so glad to see that blogging has helped, and I hope you find a lot more support now! I hope so too – good luck with yours and please don’t give up! It matters, even if others make you feel as though it doesn’t! x

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