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Writers: Be Kind to Yourself

Morning all and a very happy Sunday to you.

Quite a lighthearted and simple blog post today. Let me explain why!

I’ve had a really busy couple of weeks with work, uni assignments, having a poorly fiance and a lot of pain with my fibromyalgia and chronic migraines. I’ve always been the kind of person to put myself under loads of pressure, expecting so much of myself all the time. Of course, there’s no harm in pushing yourself, but there has to be a limit…

My new years’ resolution was “be kind to yourself.” This means allowing myself to rest when I need to, without feeling guilty or unproductive. I know that most writers put themselves under enormous pressure and beat themselves up when they haven’t written as much or as often as they’d like. Which is why I’m sending this message to you today.

It’s okay to rest
If life is overwhelming you, then it’s okay to rest. Yes, your story is important. Yes, keeping on track and motivated is important. But so are you, your health and your well being. Allow yourself time to recover, to relax. Writing will come back to you, probably easier actually, than if you don’t take some time out.
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It’s okay to miss deadlines
There, I said it. This may not be true in ALL walks of life, of course. But when you are writing to personal deadlines, with no-one else to please but yourself, then you can give yourself permission to extend or move a deadline. Of course, I don’t recommend doing this lightly. I’ve spoken about the importance of deadlines for writers and stand by their ability to keep us motivated. But I’ve also spoken about being micro-ambitious, and how small, achievable goals and deadlines can actually be more conducive with success.
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Celebrate the small stuff
Being kind to yourself is not just about when you don’t get things done, but it’s about when you do as well. Celebrate the little achievements, even if it’s finally giving a name to that character you’ve been creating, finishing a new chapter…hey even writing a sentence on a bad day is cause to celebrate! Treat yourself with the celebration and respect that you deserve.

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I once wrote a post about fitting writing into your busy life. There are some tips in there that I hope you will find useful, and will allow you to write a little even if, like me, you are super busy in other areas of your life.

Let me now how your writing is going, I always love to hear from you in the comments below.

Until then,
Keep writing,
and be kind,
M
x

28 thoughts on “Writers: Be Kind to Yourself”

  1. These are some great things to be reminded about. Only recently have I started to not beat myself up over the small things, such as personal deadlines or not meeting word counts, because eventually I’ll get to where I want to be – and being negative certainly won’t help!

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  2. Read this at a really good time. I’ve been away from writing for what feels like forever (in reality about a month) and I’ve hated myself for it. My MS has been a bit out of control but it didn’t feel like a good enough excuse. I feel ready to get back to it and do so with renewed vigour, the break having done me well. I’ve been able to take some solace in the fact that I’ve read more books.
    Thanks for these great points!

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, I’m glad the blog found you at a good time! Best of luck with getting back to it. At a bad time in my life I ended up taking a whole year out of writing, but you do get back to it, perhaps with even more energy and passion. Enjoy!

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  3. A good read! I’m writing a novel which I’ve been working on (well of and on!) for nearly three years. I keep having long spells of not being able to look at it and by the time I get over it again I spend all my time re-reading and not actually writing anything new! – does anyone else have this issue?

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    1. You’re not alone! I took a whole year out from my WIP, so this is coming into my third year of writing it. I keep re-reading, but not always adding to it by writing more. I am about to start the third draft so I hope I can more productive with it! Best of luck with yours x

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  4. Sometimes, my mind wanders and writing feels like a drudgery much like other things I enjoy, but I always get back to it sooner or later. A good night’s sleep is very helpful for starters.

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  5. This is the sort of post I wish I’d come across more often in my early days of writing. I’m still quite a newbie, but after a few cycles of doubt, and second guessing myself – wearing myself down because I want to be good at this writing thing so much, I am learning to take better care of myself. Resting when I need to. Limiting social media – even if that means I can’t stay on top of everything, no matter how much I’d like to. Writing when I can, and not beating myself up if I didn’t make a word count, or finish a scene.
    This post is the perfect reminder that I’m handling writing and social media as best as I can, and that’s ok. Thanks 😊

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    1. Aw thank you, what a lovely comment! I am so glad to hear you’re getting better at being kind to yourself! It has taken me a bit of getting used to, but it certainly helps and I think makes me more productive in the long run, as I don’t associate writing with bullying myself.
      Glad you enjoyed the post ❤

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  6. Just wanted to say nice to “meet” you – and thanks for following 🙂 Unfortunately there’s no way to connect/say “hi” without commenting, for those of us who don’t use Insta 😦 You could always create a contact form if you don’t want to put down an email. Just a thought!

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